Remember that song, "It's Raining Men"? Well, this is one kind of downpour that's not quite as celebrated as the song. And, yet, a golden shower is really not all that kinky. This sexual act may not be kosher or precious but more couples engage in it than you might think.
In its most basic form, the "golden shower" is quite a creative way to name the act of urinating over someone else as a form of sexual domination and submission. Individuals who particularly enjoy this form of sexual release and expression are said to have a fetish for kinky acts and, for those who have not found a space along the BDSM spectrum, urinating over another (willing) sexual partner can certainly spark the erotic curiosity and imagination.
Usually, a golden shower takes place during a shower, simply because it's easier to clean up (both the partner and the area) but it's not necessary to do so.
Keep in mind that urinating on someone else still carries the same risk of STIs and bacterial infections that any kind of exchange of bodily fluid would carry. However, it is definitely not more risky than any other kind of domination or emission.
If you wish to be dominated with a golden shower, start by taking a shower with your partner. Get each other all lathered up and clean. This can be a great time to start foreplay. Then, get on your knees with the water still running.
If your partner is into dirty-talk, use your words to encourage the behaviour. Remember that once the "shower" has started, it could spray anywhere so if you're facing it, close your eyes to avoid infection. Another way is to back up into your partner and have them urinate over your back or buttocks. This can also be visually gratifying and sexually kinky.
Have you ever watched the episode of Sex and the City, where Carrie famously ducks and avoids a request by her then-beau, a political candidate with a penchant for peeing over his lovers? She's mortified -- and so are her friends.
"I'm just not that kind of girl," she tells him. Instead of demystifying it, somehow, it just ends up making the act look rather depraved and strange.
It doesn't help that golden showers are in the media again because of one or two prominent allegations against politicians supposedly urinating over prostitutes. And let's not forget R. Kelly's infamous case. But a golden shower does not have to be the sensational act it's portrayed to be -- and, truly, it's not.
When engaging with our lovers, we emit all sorts of bodily fluids so why does urine get a bad rap?... The bottom line is this: if it's consensual and between adults, a golden shower is really not that much more deviant a practice than a facial.