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Kinky and Frustrated - I need a Little Variety

Friends with benefits let me finally graduate from vanilla to spicy and explore my sexuality in all its dimensions. Hello there! My name’s Brittany and I’m 35. I’ve settled nicely into my career as a human resources consultant.

A woman in charge of the situation

I’ve got a steady bloke – have had for a few years now. Paul’s got a good job and we do get along great. We’ve got lots in common when it comes to the things we like to do and even after all this time, I’m still turned on by his cute smile and great bod, just like he’s still hot for me. So what’s the problem? Well… It turns out that the one taste we don’t share is sexual, sadly. Paul’s great for a good, energetic rutting and he doesn’t skimp on the oral sex either, not like a lot of other blokes. I know a lot of women would say I’m too lucky already and just be grateful for what I have, but I couldn’t help it – I have fantasies, sometimes really kinky fantasies, that Paul just can’t – or won’t! – fulfill. It’s funny, you can find all sorts of advice on love, sex and all that but no one seems to be able to tell me what to do when you crave being in charge and dominating your lover in bed and your lover just says no. What then? Was I supposed to “just grow up” and accept that I’d likely never find a guy as great as Paul who would play submissive to my dominatrix self too?

What's a kinky girl to do?

The thing is, I never wanted to play dress-up in black latex with whips and chains and all that – I just wanted to be in charge, telling my boy what to do, sitting back and being in control, maybe a little spanking on his round bottom. I did try it with Paul a few times and it started out okay but after I’d just be getting into the role, he’d act like, “Okay, I’ve done my part,” and then go back to normal. He just didn’t understand what I was after and it was clear he wasn’t into it at all. I did try to “just grow up” and be mature about it all but dammit, my imagination just kept going back to the same thing. It was getting so I couldn’t even get into Paul’s energetic style rutting anymore. I felt resentful, like he didn’t really care about what I liked and I couldn’t forget it. At the same time, I know that you can’t really change your sexual tastes – I’m a great example! – and that I couldn’t really expect poor Paul to force himself to like being ordered around and spanked when he really wasn’t turned on by it. What was I to do? I felt like ending the relationship with Paul was throwing out the baby with the bathwater but I was starting to really contemplate it seriously when I stumbled onto the solution by accident… a kinky friend with benefits.

Discovering the key to friends with benefits

I was at a client’s office one day working on their human resources records online. It got to be lunchtime and it was one of those places where everyone went all at the same time. I wasn’t very hungry and I wanted to finish early so I quickly got some takeaway and then hurried back to the office to finish up. There was a document I needed and I went into my contact’s cubicle to grab it from her desk – was I ever surprised to see what was on her computer screen! There was an adult dating website with her profile pulled up. I couldn’t believe it – this prim and proper older lady was a kinky freak who liked group sex! LOL The place was quiet and I knew no one was around so I discretely checked out the website. I couldn’t help but notice that she had an ad posted looking for more friends with benefits and that her message box was full of kinky people replying to it. I was very careful to leave everything the way it was before I came in but naturally it left me with a head full of ideas. What if I could find a kinky boy – a friend with benefits who liked to be ordered around and spanked and wouldn’t interfere with Paul, my job or anything else? The website was so discrete and there were so many people online, so many profiles… surely I’d be able to find that perfect friend with benefits with all that choice!

Having my cake and eating it too!

Luckily I have a laptop I use only for work – one that Paul would never look at. That very afternoon on the way home, I stopped at an internet café and got started on my profile. I posted an ad and I was very upfront about what I wanted – and very excited! Still, I was anxious that I was asking too much so I deliberately left it for two days before I went back to check my messages. That’s when I found Andy and Liam. There were several replies waiting for me but Andy’s was first and Liam’s was third and I figured I could check out pics and profiles forever or just jump in so I did. Andy and I chatted a bit online and it was hard to do… I was so turned on by it that I wanted to masturbate, but I wanted to keep him waiting without giving too much away too. That’s part of being in control! LOL It turns out he lived not too far away so we were able to meet the next day at a motel on my way home from work. I can’t tell you how thrilling it was to finally feel like I was fully in charge. Andy kissed my feet and licked me on command – he loved being kept on hold until I was fully ready to ride him from on top. Now Liam, he’s another case entirely. Liam my bad boy friend with benefits likes to be naughty and spanked. We’ve spent many hot afternoons that ended with me wet with orgasms and him with a red, sore bum. And with Paul? I’m happier than I ever was.

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