Blowjobs get a bad rep, thanks in large part to some pretty aggressive renditions that dominate the world of porn. But blowjobs are a proven way of lighting a fire in the bedroom, adding extra spice to a new or already established relationship and ensuring that the recipient comes back for more.
Let's get real. Most men aren't getting as many blowjobs as they'd like. A part of that is probably due to the fact that 'one a day' is the average desired amount for most men and if you're holding down a full-time job, that's is a quota that's hard to fill.
So, you can rest assured that even a bad blowjob is going to please someone no end simply on the back of its novelty and the awesome nature of blowjobs in general. But why simply blow their dicks when you can blow their minds at the same time?(See what we did there?)
Today we are going to give you all you need to know in order to provide some truly earth-shattering, ball-emptying, tear-inducing, spunk-exploding fellatio to the lucky lad of your choosing.
Many men like the driving seat when it comes to sex. However, with fellatio things can often be a little different. The act of a blowjob is naturally tied up with a submissive interplay between man and woman. But, nothing lights a fire in your man's loins like the sight of you sexily asserting your right to wrap your lips around his man bits.
It has something to do with the ego and something to do with the desire for downright dirtiness. Whatever the ingredients of the mix, a little sexual assertion on the woman's part in this area can lead to some stellar priming. We also recommend a little bit of teasing with licks of the shaft and tender tongue action around the balls, but it is important not to overdue things on this front.
Many men report a dislike of too much teasing and even extreme discomfort. It's down to you to find out what exactly is the right ratio for your man. If you don't know the man in question that well, feel free to ask. While women are often a little less than forthcoming when it comes to how they like their head, men are generally ready and eager to give away free information in this area!
If you do come across a man who doesn't want to give you the skinny on what gets him riled up, you can try a little trial and error, or just skip this step altogether and get straight to wrapping your lips around his cock!
It's a common misconception that when it comes to sucking action it is all about the speed. In reality, how deep you can go is probably the dominant factor for most guys. This will dictate how much length and friction you can create as you slide up and down his member.
Additionally, very little excites a man's senses like the sight of a woman taking his most prized possession all the way to the base. Remember, when you first take that shaft in your mouth, keep your teeth nicely tucked away behind your lips.
A good tip here is to suck your lips into your mouth as if you were a granny without her false teeth in. It may look a little strange at first, but trust us, he'll thank you for it!
Pro Tip: Don't forget the balls!
Many a blowjob has failed to reach its true potential due to criminal neglect of his two veg. Now, we need to qualify this. A little gentle cupping is a great way to add extra sensation to your blowjob.
However, we need to emphasise 'gentle' here. Few women ever come to truly understand just how sensitive a man is in this region, and rest assured, nothing will end a man's enjoyment of your hard work like an overzealous fist around his balls! So, take your time and do it lightly. If he seems really into it, take the next step and get your mouth on those bad boys as well!
And when he cums, make sure it is an untrammelled explosion. Almost every man will be able to recount a blowjob where a girl got him all the way to the boil and then fucked things up in the most crucial moment of all: The climax!
Our main advice is that whatever you are doing to get him there, keep doing it! Changing rhythm or contact pressure at the last moment can be enough to get that sexy batter stuck in the pipes in a most unpleasant way for him.
Still, if he has an imagined way to cum in mind (and you're okay with it) feel free to go with his flow. Also, if the two of you have a way you like to finish already pre-established, this is also cool. Just make sure that when he starts, you keep him going all the way to the sticky finish.
Pro Tip: Eye Contact
One things that porn does do justice to the importance of eye contact. That's not to say that you have to stare him in the eye constantly while you work. In fact, a little playful back and forth can bring him simmering to the boil in its own way.
We encourage you to release the porn star within, and you might find it excites you as well. Switch back and forth between wide-eyed innocence and knowing mix and back again and you'll be providing him with an experience that few other women can match!
If you already consider yourself quite an aficionado when it comes to a great head but would like to take things to another level, there are a huge number of ways to make things a little more risque. Don’t be afraid to play around with toys and other tricks of the trade.
One tip is to try and switch between different temperatures. Warm your mouth up with a warm beverage such as tea and then take him in your mouth and watch his reaction to the new sensation. After about ten minutes, find out what happens when you swing things the other direction by washing your mouth with some cold water and then putting his dick back in.
Lubrication is also key to a good blowjob but sometimes it's hard to keep the saliva coming. Why not use some liquid chocolate to make the whole thing feel better for him and taste a whole load better for you!
Experimentation in this area really pays dividends!
Now: We aren't making any recommendations in this area. A big part of a man's enjoyment of a blowjob is the knowledge that the woman is into what she is doing as well. Nothing deflates a man's ego and libido like fellatio carried out like it's a chore.
So, it is important that you do your blowjobs in a way that gels with your own enjoyment of them. If you feel the need to spit, then you go right ahead and spit. That said, there is no point lying about things either, and very little intoxicates a man like to sight and sound of a woman swallowing his cum to finish off a great blowjob.
You may feel like doing this anyway, you may grow to it as the connection between the two of you grows, or you may never feel right with it. However, if you do, you are certain to have him panting at the thought of his next chance to get his cock into your mouth, blow his load on your tongue and see his cum disappear down your throat.
That is the kind of job that makes a man start to think long-term about things! Even if it doesn't, you can rest assured he won't be forgetting you anytime some. Sex may fade from memory over time, but men never forget the great blowjobs of their time!