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Mastering the Role of an Alpha Female:

We all know an alpha female when we meet her. She's got poise, and she knows how to hold herself tall. She looks you in the eye, and treats everyone with the same respect. She thinks about what she says, and she means what she says.

The special qualities of an alpha female are modesty, driveness and confidence.

In short, she's special. However, life as an alpha female isn't always easy. There are always people looking to knock you off your pedestal, and maintaining the role takes effort, but by following these tips, you can remain the alpha female in your social group with no problems at all.

Accept Your Alpha Femininity and Start Playing the Part Properly

The first thing to do is clear a few things up. Many alpha women take years to wake up to the fact that they are special. After all, alpha females are modest, even if they are driven and confident. They aren't arrogant, and they don't assume superiority, it finds them.

So, if you are always the focal point of parties and if people keep coming to you for advice, something should click. You're the alpha female in your social group, and it's time to act like it.

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Start Enjoying your Time Alone

As an alpha female, you're not like women who are desperate for company or who flit from relationship to relationship. Instead, you're rock solid and comfortable with who you are. You don't need validation from others to prove it.

But here's the ironic thing: there's a chance you've been going about things wrong.

A lot of alpha women never spend enough time alone. They don't test themselves on solo travel or closet themselves away to write a book. But you can do it. No-one is better placed than an alpha female, so take on whatever solo project pops into your mind.

Start Filling Up Your Social Calendar and Expanding Your Circle

Do you want to know another strange thing about alpha females? Although they have advanced social skills and incredible emotional intelligence, elite women don't always put that into practice. Sometimes, they are like dormant volcanoes, waiting to erupt into beauty and social success. Don't be like that.

If you are special, don't hide away. Few women have your wit and charisma, but they love being around you. So invite them over. Take up invitations to parties with semi-strangers. People can't wait to get to know you and benefit from your personal qualities.

Try Not to Attract a Band of Followers

One of the tell-tale signs of an alpha female is the gaggle of girls always on their tail. When you have that degree of charisma and beauty, other girls will want to share in it, and it's only natural. However, try not to cultivate a group of less confident women who depend upon your alpha qualities.

Your role isn't to offer them romantic scraps from your table. It's to enable them to grow. Sure, they may never be like you, but you can help them discover what they can achieve, instead of wilting in your shadow.

Alpha women take control of their love life and date whoever they like.

Be the Change Maker in your Social Community

One of the hallmarks of an alpha woman is her flexibility and ability to change. Alphas are always confident that new people, cultural phenomena or fashion ideas can become a stable part of their lives.

They don't worry about strangeness, they embrace it. In the process, their openness rubs off on the wider community, with beneficial results. So always be the revolutionary in your group when the opportunity arises.

Don't Bury Your Confidence In Any Way

As an alpha female, you're bold, confident, dynamic. You know what you want (unlike most women) and you make sure you get it. Including sex. Sometimes, guys can be put off by your confidence.

When they meet their match, inferior guys don't know what to do, but don't stoop to their level. Keep reaching for your desires, until you find a guy (or girl) who can match your qualities.

Take Control of Romantic Situations and Don't Be Afraid to Bail

Staying on the subject of sex and romance, as an alpha female you're a sexual being, but not just any sexual being. Your self-assurance and vitality is off the charts. Your libido usually follows suit.

So don't deny yourself. Don't assume that superior women are prudish or moralistic. Be yourself, and take control of your love life. Date whoever you like, and as often as you like. No-one will stand in the way of an alpha woman like you.

There is No Conflict Between Friends, Lovers and Work

Most people worry about balancing their loyalties to friends, family, work and lovers. They fret about not devoting enough time to each area of their life, terrified of making people unhappy. But that's not you. You know your goals and your priorities, and that doesn't include being neurotic about calling your partner every two hours.

If you need to work late, you will - and you must. If your friends need you, your lover can wait. As an alpha female, you're in control.

Don't Worry if you have Periods of Loneliness

Here's another odd thing about being an alpha female: you'll go through periods when people melt away, when lovers don't return your calls and when streaming movies all evening is all there is. Many alpha women are on a different level. They are so charismatic and confident that people can misunderstand them.

Sometimes it leaves you isolated, but this will pass. Remember that people are drawn to you like moths to a flame. They need you, but sometimes it hurts them to get too close to such energy and brightness. You won't be alone for long.

The magic of self confidence is to get away with and achieve anything!

Trample All Over Labels and Categories: Be Your Own Woman

The crucial thing to remember about alpha females is that they are both inside and outside society. In a world that still unfortunately tries to control women and put labels on their styles, hobbies and personalities, you are impossible to pin down. Never let yourself be defined by categories like "femininity" or "sexiness." Play video games or football if you like.

You can get away with and achieve anything. It's in your nature to shatter expectations and lead the way, so never stop breaking through the barriers in front of you.

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